In a recent survey that I came across, emotional resilience was defined
as is the ability to positively adjust to an adverse, stressful, or difficult
situations and maintain one’s good mental health. The goal of this
survey was to understand emotional resilience of athletic trainers and the
factors that may contribute to emotional resiliency in different workplace
settings. This is really important for each individual to question, and I
believe handling confrontation is a one of those factors.
One of my personal strengths (Gallup’s Strengths Finder
2.0 by Tom Rath) is harmony. I LOVE when people put aside differences to
harmonize or at least cooperate in life and work, making the positive results
that much greater. I used to steer clear of confrontation thinking that it
hurts harmony, and I confused it as creating conflict rather than finding a
solution to the problem. Before I was mature enough to learn, I struggled in a
work environment that was full of it, crumbling emotionally instead of rising
to my potential. I also experienced a work environment that was the other side
of the spectrum where confrontation was avoided so much in the culture that
there was a huge lack of accountability. In this situation, accountability
would be necessary for making progress. So, it was ton of effort to make the
wheels spin but we were still going nowhere. After different stages of learning
the hard way, I see and accept confrontation as an opportunity to build harmony
and as a leadership skill that is vital to hold your team together through
accountability.
I bring this topic up because I think that in any job the
right fit for someone has a lot more to do with this aspect of emotional
resilience. Think about emotional resilience as it relates to how you interact
with others, but also how the environment (mainly the people) allow you to
maintain a healthy mental state. People around you have different skill levels
and methods keeping the emotional balance. What do you need and what do you
need to do to positively impact your work and life environment?